Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is nothing new. In fact, it’s been around since the 1980s. But, many people still don’t know exactly what it is or how it can help with relationships.
EFCT focuses on adult relationships, bonding, and attachment. It’s effective with individuals, families, and couples.
When it comes to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the goal is to identify certain patterns and characteristics of the relationship. In doing so, a therapist can guide you and your partner to form a stronger bond and a healthier relationship.
So, when should you use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and how can it benefit your relationship?
The Pros of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy starts with observation. The therapist will connect the dots between the interactions of couples in a therapy setting and their interactions at home. Then, they can direct the couples on how to have more honest conversations that can encourage attachment.
While this can be useful for any couple, EFCT is especially effective for couples who have experienced distrust or other emotional issues.
If your relationship is going through a rough time and you feel as though you’re losing touch with your partner, EFCT can be a great solution.
It allows you to dive deeper into your own emotions. As a result, you can learn to express those emotions to your partner, which will help to build your bond.
The Stages of EFCT
Occurring in stages, the first stage makes sense of what is currently happening in your relationship, and why.
This typically focuses on breaking apart the negative ways in which you and your partner interact with each other. If that cycle isn’t broken, it’s nearly impossible to move forward in your relationship.
The next step is to learn how to communicate with each other in different, more effective ways. A therapist may encourage you to use a different type of language or tone when you talk to your partner.
It’s important to use language that brings you closer together. Often, we use language that divides us in relationships without even realizing it.
Finally, you’ll learn how to avoid the traps that create negative cycles in your relationship. Once you’re able to fully recognize those patterns, you can do a better job of avoiding them as you move forward together.
Consolidation is the ultimate goal of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. By the time you’ve gone through the therapy, you should be able to use the tools and resources to continue positive, attachment-building behaviors on your own.
The Long-Term Benefits of EFCT
Many individuals, families, and couples start EFCT in order to fix negative patterns and cycles within their lives. Yet, the things you learn throughout the therapy can be utilized forever.
It’s important to look at the emotions behind issues, learning how to understand them and communicate them effectively to your partner. If you continue to keep those issues to yourself or express them in a negative way, it will start to tear your relationship apart.
Emotional issues will never cease to exist in your life. However, EFCT can give you the tools needed to talk about those issues with your partner in a language that builds up your relationship, rather than tearing it down.
It’s a long-term solution that is designed to build your bond forever.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is based on science and has proven positive results over many years. But, it’s still easy for people to get a bit confused when they first hear about it.
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