Life happens. It isn’t always slow and steady. Sometimes it’s unpredictable, and sometimes you have to go through significant changes and transitions.
Even though many of life’s big transitions are exciting and generally “good things,” they can still be stressful and take a toll on your relationship if you don’t make an effort to stay connected.
It takes a bit of work, but if you want to stay connected during life transitions, there are some things you and your partner should do to keep close. The more committed you are to stay connected during life transitions, the stronger you and your partner will come out on the other side.
With that in mind, let’s take a look at three tips you can put into practice to stay connected during life transitions.
Schedule Time Together
When significant life transitions occur, it’s easy to get wrapped up in everything that needs doing. If you’re making a big move across the country, your time might be taken up by getting everything prepared to go. Starting a new job? Your attention will likely be focused on your work.
If you’re devoting most of your time to the transition itself, schedule in specific time to spend with your partner. Whether you have to write it in your planner or agree to one particular day and time together, carving out some space in your schedule is essential to stay connected.
When you do spend this time together, make sure your focus is solely on your partner. Schedule a dinner date together, or go to your favorite coffee shop on a Sunday morning.
Put Rituals in Place
Small rituals can make a big difference. Making habits that show each other how much you care will keep your connection healthy even when things get busy or chaotic.
Your rituals should be specific to your relationship, so develop them with your partner. Maybe you spend ten minutes in bed every morning talking. Perhaps you make your partner coffee to take with them to work and hand it to them each morning.
Even something like a daily kiss goodbye can make you feel secure as a couple. Keep your rituals going when things get hectic, and they’ll serve as little reminders of the strength of your relationship.
Forgive the Little Things
While life transitions are exciting, they can also cause a lot of stress for everyone involved. If you’re already feeling disconnected on top of that stress, it can lead to arguments.
A lot of stress can also lead to short tempers. Both of you might say things you don’t mean. Because of that stress, your emotions might even be all over the place, making it easier to feel hurt or offended.
That’s why it’s so important to forgive each other quickly, especially when you’re going through a significant life change. Stress will come, and it’s challenging to handle. But remember, your partner is there for you, and they’re going through this with you. Commit to forgive each other for the issues that cause arguments, and you’ll remain stable and connected.
If it’s a challenge to stay connected during life transitions and you’re in the Berkeley, CA area, feel free to contact me for more tips and solutions to keep your relationship secure. Or, visit my page on [specialty link] to learn more about how I can help.
Neither one of you has to give up on your dreams or give in to the stress that can come with major life changes. When you accept this stage of life for what it is, and you remain committed to working together, your relationship will thrive.