Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) has many benefits. If you’re looking to improve your sex life, however, this is one type of therapy that can bring you and your partner closer together and reignite your intimacy.
It can be difficult for couples to admit their sex life is struggling. Though, unless you acknowledge that there’s a problem, it’ll likely never get better. If neither of you is on the same page about the problem and how to work through it, the problem will remain at a standstill.
Oftentimes, therapy is the most streamlined option. If you really want to improve your sex life, it might be time to try approaching the problem using EFCT.
Getting Rid of Negative Patterns
EFCT starts out by helping you get rid of negative patterns in your relationship. Then, you can replace them with positive, strengthening cycles that will help you to improve your communication and connection with your partner.
One big reason for getting rid of negative patterns is so that you both can feel safe and secure within the relationship. Your partner is less likely to be vulnerable and open with you (and vice versa) if they don’t feel secure.
Once you’re able to make more positive habits a part of the relationship, you effectively build a deeper sense of trust. The more trust you have for your partner, the more you’ll be willing to open up to them.
Communication is the key to any relationship. But being vulnerable can also help you to foster more intimacy, which will carry over into your sex life.
Letting Down Your Defenses
As communication improves through EFCT, you’re less likely to feel defensive around your partner. We all carry our own insecurities. Some of us even deal with negative self-talk. Unfortunately, those are things we tend to bring with us into relationships.
Even if you have the best of intentions and want to be more connected with your partner, those insecurities can hold you back. It’s often easier to be defensive rather than to let your partner in. Often, that’s due to a lack of effective communication.
When you continue to learn better communication habits, you’ll be less defensive. As you learn to shut down your defenses around your partner, you’ll also be working on yourself. EFCT is a great way to dig into your own emotions. That can help you to get a better understanding of how and why you feel the emotions that you do.
Improving Your Sex Life
Because EFCT is all about emotions and interpersonal connections, you might be wondering what it has to do with your sex life. But, think about that. What could make you feel more intimate with your partner than understanding each other’s emotions and having a stronger interpersonal connection?
EFCT isn’t necessarily designed to improve your sex life. It’s meant to improve your relationship, as a whole. When you are about to break free from the negative cycles in your relationship and replace them with positive ones, a better sex life becomes a byproduct. If you feel closer to your partner, you’re going to want to show them that physical attention more often.
Not only can EFCT help you to boost how often you have sex, but it can make the experience itself so much better. Sex is about connection and emotions, and that’s exactly what EFCT is able to help with.
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EFCT could be the best possible solution for you and your partner to reconnect and form new, positive habits within your relationship